I’m listening to the new Civil Wars album not quite knowing what to think. It isn’t a matter of disliking the music. I like it. That’s the problem. I do like it and want more.
The Civil Wars are on hiatus, and the future of the band is unknown. They say that Joy Williams and John Paul White aren’t speaking to each other. For a born peacemaker who wants everyone to get along, this breaks my heart.
I say that, yet I have made this whole situation worse. I picked sides without knowing these people. Without knowing the details. Based only on their photographs and a few details plucked from social media.
All too often, I don’t see them as real people. They are too far removed from my life to think of them as regular individuals. They are just a means to my favorite music.
But they are hurting right now. Their songs bleed. From the little things they have said in interviews and formal releases, it is easy to see that there is pain on all sides.
Hurting people need grace. They don’t need people like me choosing sides, making one the hero and the other the villain. I am Team Williams/White for here on out. No more wars for me.